Originally Posted by jk1961
thanks guys . my boy is called martin he is autistic yet he is a qullified show jumping instructor which took a lot of seriously hard work he has problems but he is no b****y retard. mabey i am to sensitive but how do these poor guys n gals feel when they hear people call them that. icould continue this moan for paragraph after paragraph so i hope i have made my feelings clear.......doc carol ant your fab guys
One needs a little thick skin when posting at any website -- including this one. SO .. my advice is not to be upset when one is infrequently offended by something said here. It becomes especially inappropriate to become offended if one isn't exactly certain of the meaning expressed in the "offending" post, or when it isn't directed specifically at anyone or any group in particular.
Personally, I reacted differently to the post that referred to special olympics participants as "retarded" persons than you. I for one am not hooked by the "official speak" syndrom that would insist on referring to said participants as "mentally challenged" people. To me, either way describes the same thing; and I consider neither way offensive of itself.
I can certainly empathize with your feelings given your son's situation; but you have to keep in mind that the remark in question wasn't published with that knowledge nor with the intent of hurting your feelings. The poster was speaking in general in the post in question and really said nothing in particularly bad taste. Whether one refers to special olympics participants as "retarded" versus "mentally challenged" makes no difference word wise, nor in essential meaning. On the other hand, had said poster referred specifically to some person as a "retard," that would be considered quite offensive, and should receive management attention. Happily that has not occurred.
BTW, glad to hear that your son has mastered some of the challenges life has imposed on him. To me, life is like a game of cards. It's not about the hand you're dealt, but rather how you play that hand that counts.